How To Deal With The Aftermath of a Divorce

  • How To Deal With The Aftermath of a Divorce

No matter what, divorce, separation, breakups affect all parties involved. And If you have children it’s even harder since you will probably need to be involved with that person for a long time to come. Hopefully for the sake of the child, children, or grandchildren you can work things out amicably and part ways without leaving a trail of wreckage behind you. If you have no children then you are not tied to the person long after the final separation.

During any separation there is always a sense of loss and the process can be difficult. People can be affected financially, emotionally, physically, and in many other ways. There is always some sense of loss, anger, disbelief and grief that comes during these challenging times. The key of fairing well through this journey and rebuilding of your new life is finding better ways of coping, managing and healing.

These are 4 ways to make this journey better during the separation period and after

1. Take care of YOURSELF

This can be done through meditation, exercise, eating better, sitting with your back straight, being conscious of how you are treating YOUR body and mind.

According to Oprah,

EACH PERSON IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR OWN LIFE, NO ELSE CAN OR EVER WILL BE. She says we must use what we have to run toward our best, despite the situation. Thought by thought, choice by choice, we craft our lives through all our conscious and unconscious choices. I don’t see that as a burdensome responsibility. That the single most greatest privilege of being alive.

2. Love Yourself

Avoid self-sabotaging negativity. In the short term, it may feel relieving; in the long term it makes you miserable. Practice self love to ease your pain.

3. Be Mindful of Your Negative Thinking

Stop the negative thinking in its tracks. According to cognitive behaviorism, you must change your thinking patterns to change your life. As mentioned by Claire Newton in her blog,

During cognitive behavioral therapy the focus is to examine your thinking and behavior in order to:

  • Help you recognize how your thoughts, attitudes, beliefs and assumptions affect the way you feel
  • Teaching you to question whether your automatic negative thoughts really reflect the truth
  • Teaching you to replace your automatic negative thoughts with more realistic thoughts
  • Helping you to change your behavior.

4. Join a Support Group

Join a support groups with others going through the same separation and individuation process. During support group you can learn new coping styles, new ways of managing through this journey, feel less alone in what you are going through. You will have the opportunity to be with others who understand what you feel, fear want and need. aGroupForME offers online moderated support groups geared toward the issues like this. These groups are small, normally 8-10 members and hosted by a moderator to ensure everyone is the right group fit and follows the terms of use and community guidelines. These set scheduled support group sessions are online using group video technology. This means you can have your support session anywhere that works best for you.

You can easily sign up for a group by visiting and start your journey to getting the right support.

2018-03-15T14:21:29-07:00 Categories: Depression, Divorce|


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